Dear 14 year old Me,
I know you only want to know one thing, does it get better? No
Well, maybe? It seems as if you have pecked in high school, but we are still working on not making that a reality. I’m kinda hoping like a phoenix we rise from our ashes, better than ever.
Remember all those times the popular kids were beating you up, and you yelled that some day you would own them because they would be working for you…well turns out that you were wrong. Some of those people have turned into really nice people that you don’t own at all, sucks right…I know.
I know this might be hard to believe, but half (if not all) the people in high school that you thought were your friends, are not really going to be your friend in like 8 years so instead of spending time figuring out how mask your weirdness, just be you. Trust me it will free up so much time for you to do other things like preparing for college or some good old teenage rebellion schemes (we’ll talk about that later).
Which brings me to my next point, preparing for college. All the multi-tasking skills you thought you had that would make you so great in college…well you’re not as great as you think you are. I hate to tell you this, but you are a jack of all trades and a master of none. Sweet ignorant me, you have to master everything to be successful in college.
Continuing along the lines of college, for heaven sakes, listen to your incredibly wise mother when she said don’t go away to college for at least the first year, so that she could give you the skills that she knew you lacked[that would prepare you to be successful in college].
Speaking of our mother, the transition from [her] child to adult is going to be particularly hard for both of you. So instead of fighting with her, help her to see your perspective. Just be an adult (the adult that you’re claiming to be) and responsibly follow the rules. Trust me it will help keep you from many nights of [cling, cling] lockdown.
I know everyone tells you the opposite but You are a trend setter. Don’t be ashamed of your clothes, your ideas, your taste in literature or anything else that might be weird to others. Everyone will catch up eventually.
Take more vacations to Micighan to see your grandparents. The first and last one you took ended with a tearfully I’ll be back next summer. But unfortunately in a few months you will find out that never happened because mommy (nickname for grandma) dies. So far, it has been 8 years and you haven’t gotten over it.
Go through your rebellious years in high school like a normal person. Seriously teenage rebellion is forgivable but adult rebellion just lands in jail or something worse!
Build a stronger relationship with God now, because it will get you through some really tough times!
I implore you to try harder with track. Push your parents to let you go to more meets. You may get a track scholarship, and it will definitely keep you from packing on the regrettable freshman fifteen, sophomore 16, etc.
I saved this for last, but by no means is it the least. This is the most important thing I can tell you. You are devastated now but good job for not giving it up to your prom date/boyfriend (questionably). He probably would have been stupid and not used protection and then you would have ended up like his next girlfriend…pregnant.
Does it get better?
I don’t know, We’ll have to see!