Hey there Awesomologists:
I stumbled across this post on a forum from a high student who is about to graduate, and thought this was great info. So here we go:
As a person who is graduating from high school very soon; I have advice for students in high school or soon to be high school students. Many of these are based on regrets that I have made or regrets that people I know have. I don’t consider myself to be an authority figure or a professional of any kind, but this is a list of things I wish I was told before or during my early years of high school, and I am sure others can benefit from reading this.
1) Do Not Be Too Quick To Judge
Do not value first impressions highly. Don’t dismiss a person or idea too early just because you immediately get a bad impression from it. You will miss many opportunities because of that. Just because something seems bad at first impression, does not mean it is bad. Try to give everything a fair chance.
2) Do Not Let Your Friends Slip Away
If your friendship with someone is slowly weakening, take initiative immediately to try to repair it instead of allowing your situation to exacerbate. Identify a possible reason why the friendship is weakening. If you think is your fault, try and make amends immediately.
3) Do Not Ever Hold Grudges
Holding a grudge is like holding a trade embargo. It is intended to hurt the other party, but it hurts you equally. Spending your high school years focusing on the tension between you and another person is not pleasant. Be quick to forgive.
4) Do Not Seek Revenge
Unless revenge is entails little effort, will be effective, and puts you at no risk for consequences, do not seek it. Just let it go and move on. If it’s tension between a people from your school, you will never see them again in a few years.
5) Do Not Get Into Drama
If the problem doesn’t involve you, don’t get involved. As tempting as it seems to get in a conflict, mediate, take sides, and try to resolve it, it just isn’t worth it. It may give you enemies, it is a huge waste of time, and it produces no benefits for you.
6) Pick The Right Classes
Once you pick a class, you are stuck with it for the whole year. Don’t pick a class that you won’t want to take for the whole year for a stupid reason. There are so many classes and only a limited amount of them you can take, so think carefully. High school is an opportunity to learn about so many things, so just pick courses that you always wanted to learn.
7) Have Respect For Authority
No matter how much you may dislike them at the time, just remember that teachers and parents care about you and are only doing their job. Listen to their advice and heed it. Don’t argue with them and just obey them.
8) Get Your Driver’s License Right Away
Keep that on a high priority. Pass the written test as soon as you can. Get as much practice as you can and pass the driving test as soon as you can. Don’t push this off until later. Get this out of the way as soon as possible.
9) Don’t Be A Victim Of Fads
Wearing the latest fashion, getting the newest electronics, getting a popular haircut, and spending much time trying to follow the latest trends is all a waste. Fads don’t matter in a few months and they are not in your interest – only in the interest of giant corporations who market to the masses.
10) Don’t Try To Please Everybody
There is no way you can please everybody or get everybody to agree with you. Don’t spend any effort trying to please others who will never like you. It is a huge waste of time.
11) Do Not Draw Negative Attention
Don’t say anything offensive and do not be a pessimist. Don’t have bad hygiene or act immaturely. It takes a lot of time to repair a bad image and it is better to have no attention at all than to get negative attention.
12) Join Several Clubs / Activities
It is a great way to meet friends, take up new interests, and augment your college application. What’s not to like? If you don’t, you may be missing on several opportunities.
13) Do Well In Academics
That’s the one thing that you don’t want to screw up. Develop good academic habits for college, absorb the information being taught to you, and walk out of high school with a good GPA. If not, you are making waste of the most important function of high school.
14) Create A Set Of Goals
Ask yourself what you would like to accomplish by the end of high school, make a plan on how you would like to reach them. There is a lot of room for improvement and there is no reason not to improve.
15) Learn To Say The Word “No”
Saying “Yes” to everything is an awful vice. It can easily allow you to be encumbered by selfless tasks which are at no benefit to you. And if you say “Yes” to one thing, as a natural consequence, you have to say “No” to something else. So just learn to say the word “No”, a lot.
16) Make The Right Friends
Friends who use others, friends who engage in criminal activity, friends who immature, and friends who you can never have a serious relationship with are a waste of an investment. Make the right friends rather than being influenced by the wrong friends.
17) Remember That You Are Young
You are immature: physically, mentally, and emotionally. You are comparatively dumb. There is a lot of room for improvement and growth, so don’t deny yourself that improvement and growth because you think you are superior to your elders.
18.) Your Views Will Change
The views you have now, even if you hold them 100% firmly, will most likely change as you get older and begin to mature. Your political views, your opinions, your beliefs, your interpretation of your past, and everything. So keep that in mind that what you think now might not be true at all.
19) Learn To Take Responsibility
Doing whatever you want regardless of the consequences because your parents or teachers are there to fix it, is an awful habit. Learn to be accountable for yourself and learn self-discipline.
20) Stay In Healthy Shape
Get a sufficient amount of sleep, eat healthy, take vitamins, exercise, and avoid reckless behavior. You only get one life, so be well in it.
21) Educate Yourself Outside Of School
If school is your only source of knowledge, you will be ignorant and will probably never even open a book after you graduate school. Learn as much as you can outside of school: about finances, politics, marketable skills, useful skills, etc.
22) See Things In Other People’s Perspective
The decisions people make, may seem odd to you, but try to step in their shoes and try to imagine why they would do the things that they do. Were they a victim of something, do they have good intentions, do they have something to gain out of what they are doing, are they thinking illogically, or are you thinking illogically?
23) Plan For After High School
You shouldn’t have a specific plan on what you want to do early in high school, but as the years pass by, make sure you have a plan. Whether it is college, vocational schools, or the military, just make sure you have a plan for something, and make sure you are working to achieve that goal.
24) Be Thankful Of Everything You Have
There are many people in the world who are poor, starving, uneducated, and on the verge of death, and there are millions of people in history who have suffered from war, famine, and slavery. So be thankful for everything you have.
25) It’s All About The Habits
Bad habits are hard to break and remain with you for a long time. Don’t fall into a trap which can hurt you your whole life. Simultaneously, develop good habits which you would like to carry with you your whole life.
26) Understand The Value Of A Dollar
The labor of a high school student is worth minimum wage (about 7.50 per hour and possibly part time). The labor of someone who has graduated college is salaries of around $30,000-90,000+, so understand how the money you have during high school means almost nothing and that the money you will be making your whole life matters.
27) You Have A Lot Of Time
You have very, very, very high amount of free time on your hands to use however you wish. You can waste it in front of a television screen or you can use it productively. The choice is up to you.
28.) Realize High School Isn’t The Real World
High school is not the real world. The real world isn’t a closed environment. It is a free society where people accept responsibility for their actions. What is rewarded in high school (popularity, athletics, rote memorization, obedience) is different from what is rewarded in the real world. If high school isn’t working out for you, you may find yourself better in handling the real world.
29) How Will This Impact Me In Five Years?
Ask that question with every big decision you make.
30) Understand The Difference Of Scale
High school is four years long. The rest of your life is statistically sixty years long. So ask yourself what is more important: to be more concerned with those four years or to be more concerned about the future.